Tuesday, 12 March 2013

FOR YOUR CHILD TO GROW…LEARN TO LET GO!!!


“Plain old babysitting is expensive – early childhood education is priceless”


The first few years of a child’s life provide a vital opportunity for development of the physical, cognitive and socio-emotional development. The learnings of a child during this age will set a stage for the rest of the child’s life. According to experts, almost 90% of the child’s brain is developed by the age of five. Children in this age group must be exposed to an enriching environment to tap this ‘window of opportunity’. Attending a quality preschool equips children with life skills that prepare them for school and beyond.



Academics
"There's increasing evidence that children gain a lot from going to preschool," says Parents advisor Kathleen McCartney, PhD, dean of Harvard Graduate School of Education, in Cambridge, Massachusetts. At preschool, children are introduced to numbers, letters and shapes. They are given the opportunity to improve reading skills, motor skills, have richer vocabulary and stronger math skills. Sandhya Sridhar, a mom to a 12 year old, residing at Besant Nagar, Chennai recollects, “The Montessori training that my son got at his preschool helped him stand out in his class during formal school. The activities at the preschool strengthened his motor skills; there was no need for me to hold his hand when he started to write.”

Social skills
Children are able and eager to learn right from birth. However, development does not happen by itself. It depends on the exposure that a child gets and the environment that enables positive interactions. Preschools empower children with good social and behaviour management skills that help them find long-term happiness and success in life as they grow older. They learn to communicate, find meaning through their own explorations and assert their independence and individuality.

Professional parenting
Good preschools work collaboratively with parents to build on their strengths and guide them, so that their children may grow up having a sense of family, culture and community. Children benefit immensely by having parents who are better equipped to meet their child-rearing responsibilities.

Preschool – A solution for working parents
In today’s age when joint families are giving way to nuclear families where both parents are working, preschools are generally an option for children to be taken care of during the day. Preschools are definitely a better option than informal help. Parents need to understand that the person who cares for their child many hours a week makes a difference in their child's life and well-being. So it is indeed important to decide who the child interacts with during the day. Quality preschools have trained teachers who will build a positive relationship with children and will empower them with a sense of trust which is a prerequisite to all learning.Some companies provide workplace nurseries for their employees as a work flexibility option. Such nurseries offer parents a space where they can be at work and with their child at the same time. Working moms can breast feed her child; have video calls for an occasional check, ensuring that their child remains close by in a safe environment.

A preschool is indeed a place where a child can gain a sense of self, interact with peers and build confidence.


Friday, 8 March 2013

Being a working mom is an attitude!


“Sometimes the best man for the job isn't.” 
~Anonymous

Can you be a good mom and a good employee? That’s the billion dollar question that many working moms are striving to find. Is there a magic mantra that can allow you to be at two places at once? Is the term ‘super mom’ for real? Women, including men, would appreciate that it is indeed very tough to juggle family and work. Many tough circus acts pale in comparison to the balancing act of being a good employee and a good mother. However, being a valued employee and a good mother need not be mutually exclusive.

What defines a successful career oriented working mom, efficient in both worlds, is attitude.

·    Attitude towards the decision to work: Although the number of women joining the corporate sector is increasing, there is one thing that working moms have in common – guilt. Guilt is a pervasive emotion that tugs the chords of the heart of most working moms who often question, “Am I spending enough time with kids?” The consensus among social scientists, who have been researching the problem since 1930’s, holds that absence of working moms from homes does not hurt their child; what matters is whether a mother feels good about whether she works or stays home. Research evidence suggests that when working mothers have a positive attitude towards their decision to work, they are more likely to encourage their children’s independence.

·     Attitude towards alternate childcare options: Letting go of your children so that they could grow is an attitude that will benefit both the mother and the child in the long run.  In today’s age when joint families are giving way to nuclear families where both parents are working, preschools are generally an option for children to be taken care of during the day. Ask for flexibility options such as remote working, workplace nurseries from your employer.

·     Attitude to delegate: Also, looking for opportunities that add hours to your day is an attitude you must develop. Outsourcing your chores is an excellent way of doing so; it will give you those extra hours with your kids. Being a wonderful cook must not stop you from hiring some form of help in the kitchen during workdays. You could always cook those special meals your children love on weekends and holidays.

·      Attitude towards your job: Finally, follow your passion. Your attitude towards your job spills into your life outside work. Some studies indicate children of mothers who are dissatisfied with their jobs show more signs of poor adjustment than children of non-working mothers or mothers who like their work.

Be positive! Understand that you are not a super human. You may miss your child’s parent teacher meet or you may miss a business dinner. Don’t be apologetic about either. Having the right attitude will help you strike a right balance between profession and parenthood.